Submisson

              The word 'submit' means to voluntarily put yourself in another person's hands. Chaos occurs when everyone is trying to lead at the same time. So the husband has been designated by God (Genesis 3:16) in each family to be the lead and the other to put themselves in the leader's trusting hands. The wife is not stupid or talentless but is weaker as a physical vessel and should be treated accordingly.

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives,

and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as

heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

-1 Peter 3:7            

                Many women today feel that they can be the head of the house and that they can boss their husbands around. They feel that they have the final say in everything and try to control the husband. However, the bible tells us that the wife is supposed to be submissive to the husband.

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the wife as

Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is Savior.

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also

wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”

-Ephesians 5:22-24

“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

-Colossians 3:18

“Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands,

so that, if any of them do not believe

the word, they may be won over without

words by the behavior of their wives…”

1 Peter 3:1

-A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day;

restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.”

-Proverbs 27:15

“Better to live on a corner of the roof than

share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”

-Proverbs 25:24

                However, remember not to take these passages out of context. A woman should not give in to her husband blindly, totally, and completely if it means violating her rights or causes her to sin. It does not mean to treat her like a minor without good judgment.

                This passage is often quoted by husbands when the wife does the opposite of what the husband wants her to do. This passage does not justify the abuse of wife-abuse physically or verbally. The wife is the heart of the family; her actions are often based on emotions. The man’s job is the head of the family; his actions are based on reasoning most of the time. They are meant to complement each other and work together, not contradict.

                A husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the church. And how does Christ love? With a sacrificial love.  And this must be the husband’s love for his wife.  It must be a sacrificial love!  It must never be a selfish love.  Christ loved the church, not that the church might do things for Him, but that He might do things for the church. This would assure the woman that she could not be abused in any way and would make it very easy to submit to him.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved

the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy,…”

-Ephesians 5:16

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

-Colossians 3:19

       

                If Jesus is the head of the church and the head of his body that the Father has given to him, then he is the head of the bride or wife in the spiritual marriage contract between mankind and God. We, in the spiritual marriage, are to be submissive to the Lord’s will.

           

           Did Jesus ever say that he rebelled against the Father's wishes? No! He said that whatever he was doing it was because the Father had sent him to do it. This shows an awful lot of respect and trust in Jesus by the Father to do the right thing doesn't it? Did Jesus ever think it wrong to admit that he was God and that he had an equal footing in the Godhead before and after he became Jesus the Christ? No, for the Bible states:

"Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who, being in the

 form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, but made Himself

 of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men."

-Philippians 2:5-7

            In another place he says that he laid down his own life and that it was not taken from him without his permission:

"By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us.  

And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. "

-1 John 3:16

                So what does Jesus' behavior have to do with being a good submissive wife to your husband? Jesus is the spiritual wife in this relationship between him and God and he submitted his will unto the Father and trusted him to execute the plan that they both discussed before the Creation was formed. Should not wives be doing the same? The only reason that a wife would not is if she is being mistreated, abused or betrayed. God condemns treachery and that was how Jesus was treated when he was given over to the Sanhedrin and for that matter by us who have been the ones who were guilty of disobedience in the first place.

                And even in a marriage relationship we are not to live under turmoil but in peace and if this is not happening we need to leave this kind of relationship.

"But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage

 in such cases.  But God has called us to peace. "

-1 Corinthians 7:15

                The woman should trust the man that he will make the right decisions. But sometimes the wife may have more expertise in a certain situation and her opinion should be taken into consideration.

"For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.  'For this

reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.'This is a great 
mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  
Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife 
see that she respects her husband."

-Ephesians 5:30-33

            However, submission is not a wife only deal. A man should also be submissive in certain situations. It is important in all relationships that submission occurs-not in the wrong situations, but when it is possible. We are to develop relationships of trust and confidence and respect so there is an element of submission in everything we do. Jesus submitted to the Father's will until he was crucified and then The Father put all authority under the feet of Jesus. The wife submits to her own husband and he loves her so much that he in turn gives much authority and trust and confidence in her opinion and sets her in high esteem for the world to see. To understand the meaning of submission from God's perspective we must first of all submit to God and do as he has instructed so that we may all benefit from a lifetime of blessings.

“Instead, whoever wants to become great among you

must be your servant and whoever want to

be first must be your slave-…”

-Matthew 20:26